I tried an anti-aging cream sample from a magazine and it made my skin look so plump and fresh! I heard that women start aging at around 25yrs old, do you think it’s okay to start using these types of rich moisturising products before then?
Three of my four sons have inherited a seizure disorder from my husband. It starts off as febrile seizures in youth. It can be outgrown up to age 7 or last through age 18. It can be caused by other reasons which we think include exhaustion (by lack of sleep or exercise induced) & poor diet. At age 3, my oldest with this was tried on anti-seizure medications (Tegretol, Dylantin, Depakote, Phenobarbitol) at Barrow’s Neurological Center in Phoenix,AZ but medicines did not prevent seizures but caused seizures. His 1 min long febrile seizures became 6 a day & up to 45 mins. long. He lost his ability to walk & talk but gained it back once weaned off medicine. Because of this, I do not want to medicate any of my kids for fear of permanent brain damage. Outgrown by age 7, he now has had one at 16 & at 17 which appear to be due to running track or cross country to exhaustion (or heat). At this age, his driving has me concerned. Suggestions on ways to keep this from happening naturally?
I am 26 years old and was raised mostly by my dad. I saw my mom once a year for two months and now I live 1500 away from them (they live in different states). I dearly love both of them but I really hurt my parents feelings because:
I never get to see them and didn’t for most of my life but love them more than anything. They are my ONLY family – just my mom and my dad. It is shocking to me to watch them age. My mom is 55 and my dad is 67. My mom is married to a man in his 70s and I have noticed that over the years, she has mentally assumed his age, even though her husband is 20 years older than herself. She acted like she was 60 when she was 40 and now that she is 55 she acts like she’s also in her 70s. My dad acts younger than his age but it is still really hard for me to see them age. Every time I see my mom with her hair in the “old white lady afro-type” hair-do, it bugs me because it makes her look like she’s so old. So, I tell her that (I am bluntly honest – I realize this is no longer the way to communicate with my mom but it is the way I prefer to be communicated with so i assumed she would prefer it too). At the same time, I offered to take her to the salon and get her a makeover and pay for a new hair do. So we went and she came out looking like she was 30 again – my mom is really hot when she tries. She looked so goregous – of course I told her that and gave her tons of compliments – as did like 5 random people that day. She looked so young and full of life. This year (I still SADLY only get to see her once or twice a year), she had totally let herself go again and was looking like her husband’s age. So again i offered to take her to the salon and she adamantly refused and did not put one ounce into “getting ready” the entire time I was there. She really looked awful and it was sad. What bothers me the most, more than seeing the physical aspect of her aging, is the mental effect – my mom is totally mentally convinced that she is in her seventies (although she admits she is only 55). I at least want her to act and feel young; be active, maybe go to a “silver sneakers” class – workout class for 50+, or even start going to a card or movie club with her friends. It really bothers her when I try to change her (I know they say you aren’t supposed to do this). I also do this to my dad – I buy him cologne that the young guys wear, I get him supplements that are anti-aging supplements, etc…anything to help mom and dad look and feel young. I realize that this hurts their feelings but I do not mean for it too. I think the reason it bothers me so much to see my parents age is because it subconsciouly reminds me that they are my only family and that when they are gone, I will be all alone in this world and won’t have them. My mom and dad are all I’ve got. Additionally, my mom’s husband had numerous serious and debilitating health conditions that are slowly and miserably killing him and I associate those partly with his age. I NEVER EVER want either my mom or dad to go through that kind of misery and demise. My thinking, is that I try so hard to make my parents seems young for these reasons. Is this normal? I think it is somewhat selfish but how is a person supposed to handle seeing their parents age. I don’t get to see them often so when I do the changes are very dramatic. (All of a sudden mom walks with a cane, all of a sudden, dad’s hair is comletely white)… I think I should just stop trying to change them, I guess they don’t appreciate it – (someone helped me make a major change in my life and I am a much happier, healthy person now because of it so I don’t think it is always a bad thing to want to help someone change for the better). What is your take on this? Is it normal to absolutely dread the thought of your parents getting older? How can I accept this and deal with it? Thank you!!!